Thursday, June 3, 2021

Bridal Devotion

I was recently honored to be asked to give a devotion for a bridal shower given at our church.  Normally a request like that would be pretty far outside of my comfort zone. I much prefer writing to presenting.   However, this was for a dear friend who was widowed a number of years ago and never thought she would find someone she cared about again.  Instead she is now looking forward to being the wife to a long time pastor at a sister church in our denomination.  I will miss her but I know that God has some great things planned for the two of them as they answer their first call together with a new congregation.  As it turns out, quite a number of people stopped to tell me they were touched by the devotion, and so I decided to print it here.  It is my earnest desire that you will find blessing in it.


When I was asked a few days ago if I would prepare a devotional for your shower, my first thought was, what in the world could I share that might be meaningful and useful to you?  What do I share with a room full of women of such mature faith that you haven’t already heard before?  So after much prayer,  I decided to spend some time looking at a number of married couples in the Bible for inspiration, and even though we all pretty much know their stories it doesn’t hurt to remind ourselves of some of the lessons that are there. 

I found so many wonderful examples of love and faith throughout the Bible that it was hard to choose which ones I wanted to share.  There was Ruth, the Moabite widow who had lost everything but chose to follow her beloved mother-in-law into a new faith in a strange land, and in so doing,  found a new love, a new home and a place in the lineage of the Savior of the World.  There was Jacob who was willing to work 14 years for his father-in-law in order to marry his beloved Rachel.  And there was Joseph who even before he was visited by the Angel of God wanted to protect from public disgrace and dishonor his sweet Mary.   But I want to go back farther to the beginning  when God created them male and female he created them.



We all know that when God created Adam and Eve that marriage between a man and a woman was one of the first institutions that God put into place.  Elizabeth Elliot said it this way,

“God might have given Adam another man to be his friend, to walk and talk and argue with if that was His pleasure. But Adam needed more than the companionship of the animals or the friendship of a man. He needed a helper, specially designed and prepared to fit that role. It was a woman God gave him, a woman, “meet,” fit, suitable, entirely appropriate for him, made of his very bones and flesh.”

Adam called Eve, “ bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh”  It’s our skeleton that is the physical structure that keeps our bodies upright.  As we are a helpmeet to one another we help to keep each other upright and strong.  That is what you and Craig will be doing for each other as you live and grow together as husband and wife.


We read later in Genesis 24, that it talks of how Abraham sent his servant back to his homeland to find a wife for his son Isaac.  That servant was led by God to Rebekah.  It was not a random act but rather it was the result of faithful and purposeful prayer on the part of the servant.  I know that both you and Craig have prayed faithfully for direction in every step of your relationship and that you both know that it is God who has led you to each other.  Just as Rebekah was a kinswoman from Abraham’s extended family so you and Craig both understand the importance of being equally yoked as part of God’s family.  I would also point out that even though Rebekah and Isaac had never met they chose to be together showing that love is a much an action as it is an emotion.  They chose to trust that God would to be with them as they learned to be man and wife.  In fact, in a time and a culture where it was not uncommon for a man to have more than one wife, Isaac chose to be faithful to only Rebekah for their entire lives. 


In the life of Abraham, God asked him to leave his homeland with his flocks and his wife Sarah and to travel to a new land where God promised him great blessings.  It must have been very hard for Sarah to leave behind her family and her life to follow Abraham into a new place just as I know it has been difficult for you to think about leaving your Elim family and friends and heading to a new church home and a new ministry. 

I remember Aquila and Priscilla from the book of Acts.  You remember we studied about them together last year?   They were early missionaries in the church, working with Paul as tent makers and providing him a home and a refuge as he preached the gospel in Corinth.  They opened their home as a meeting place for early Christians and shared their hospitality and their faith with others.  That’s what you and Craig will be doing in your new church and your new home.  You have always had an enormous gift for hospitality Cathe that I know will be a true blessing in your new ministry.  Priscilla and Aquila personify the knowledge that two are stronger than one and the wonderful difference a couple can make when they are like minded in service to the Lord.



As I looked at just these few couples, I can see how God has been working in you and Craig’s lives.  He has known and planned for the two of you to be together from the time he created you.  It has been a joy for all of us here, as we have watched you experience a romantic new love.   I think he still has many new and wonderful experiences and good surprises ahead for the two of you.   And He will be with you and in you as the two of you begin this new life together.

I leave you with this last verse from Ecclesiastes 4:12 which is one that you both know and are already living.

"Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.  But a cord of three strands is not quickly broken."


Let Us Pray:





  1. Wow! This is so beautiful! What a wonderful devotion to your beloved Sister and Friend, and her Husband. I think it would be a beautiful book! Are there many bridal devotionals? I just felt this has such beauty so want1ed to mention that if the LORD puts it in your heart to take it further!! Many blessings to your dear friend on her wedding! Much love to you!❤️

  2. You are very kind. I have only done one other Bridal devotion for the daughter of a friend. I also did a devotion on motherhood once for my daughter-in-law's first baby shower.

  3. We don't have bridal and baby showers in the UK as far as I'm aware but on these special occasions it must be an honour to give a devotional address to a friend or family member. Thank you for sharing here. May your friend and her husband receive many blessings from the Lord as they start their married life and pastoral ministry together.

  4. A very appropriate devotional for your friend. A beautiful send-off, too.